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Love is perhaps the most profound of all emotions. According to the “Book of Miracles’ it is the one true emotion, all positive emotions derive from love. All negative emotions are forms of fear.

Love is a basic necessity in everyone’s life. Without it, we would be physically and psychologically maladjusted. 

“When emotional deprivation and lack of love occur, physical growth slows down or stops. The body enters into a survival mode where vital, basic physiological functions are preserved at the cost of physical, mental, and social development. The longer the child is in survival mode, the more permanent and negative the effects will be. Once a child is adopted and the amount of love, care, and stimulation increases, the body ceases to be in survival mode and will start recuperating.” The Conversation.

The brain changes triggered by love certainly affect our mood and behavior. The neurotransmitters and hormones associated with attraction, sex and love are oxytocin, dopamine, norepinephrine, vasopressin and testosterone.

Love apparently affects the immune system. A 2019 study found that falling in love results in immune system changes similar to protective viral infection responses.

Love seems to help safeguard against cancer, according to a 2021 study. It found tissue from pair-bonded mice was less likely to grow tumors than tissue from mice with disruptions to their pair bonds.

Research from 2010 also suggests people who are romantically in love enjoy lower levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. They are less stressed. Love assists in pain relief, and lower blood pressure.

Researchers say that a sure-fire cure for depression is romantic love. The neuro hormones blow depression out of the water.

“They have shown us that those couples who have happy, intimate marriages and are in love live on average, 10 years longer than those who are not in relationships.” The Studies on Love and Longevity

Love is wonderful, it is madness. It is a form of obsessive-compulsive behavior. 

When we first romantically fall in love with someone, it’s normal for them to be the focus of everything on our mind. We think of them constantly. (There is no place for depression) Over time this thought/feeling subsides as the neurotransmitters in the brain fade. Hopefully our love is requited (returned), and it develops into something saner and more long term for both (in more or less equal and balanced measure).

If the subject of our emotions does not return those love feelings to us, we tend to fall into depression. There we experience rejection, self-loathing, unhappiness etc.

Some individuals crave the euphoric feelings of infatuation and the early pangs of love. Thats all they want – nothing more, nothing deeper. So, their cravings lead to an addiction. They seek other people to fall in love with in an   idealized romantic attachment, until the neuro hormones begin to fade. Then they abruptly move on to another (victim).  They lack commitment. Perhaps they fear commitment? If this is you get help.

Yet love is such a difficult thing to define. It is perhaps the most misunderstood and confused word in the English language. What is love?

American psychologist Dr. Robert Sternberg theorizes that love is based on three domains:

• intimacy (emotional)
• commitment (cognitive)
• passion (physical)

Each domain represents a triangle corner in Sternberg’s triangular theory of love. I like it.

The seven kinds of love in Sternberg’s triangular theory cover a range of relationship types, created by which domains are involved.

• Liking. Friendship You share emotional intimacy, but there’s no physical passion or commitment.
• Infatuation. ‘Puppy Love’ Passion is the key ingredient. You are physically attracted to another, but you have not developed the emotional intimacy or established a commitment. Infatuation can and often leads to something more. but more often it fades.
• Empty Love is a committed relationship that lacks passion or intimacy. 
• Romantic Love. Romantically involved, sharing physical passion and emotional intimacy, but no commitment.
• Companionate Love. Committed and emotionally bonded, such as best friends or family. Marriages with no passion. 
• Fatuous. You have been swept off your feet. Perhaps all the way, powered by passion, into an engagement or marriage without any emotional intimacy.
• Consummate Love. Consummate love is the ultimate goal through spousal partnerships and marriage.  Ideally it includes balanced commitment, passion, and emotional intimacy. The one true love.

One way to achieve this is through committed Tantric – Sexual Wellness training with your partner.

When is the ‘right time’ to have sex for the ‘first time’ with your partner? Some say, ‘on the third date’ with reference to something said in the TV series ‘Sex in the City’. Some long-term couples say they had sex together on their first date together. Sometimes they say ‘something happened as they were chatting, they had ‘a connection’, and they just knew it was right. Some say they won’t have sex until they are officially engaged or even married – no matter what they feel. Who is right, and who is wrong? They all are right! Just as long as it is consensual, not pressured. You certainly do not have to have sex because of something said in a TV show! Or, because you were drunk on alcohol or stoned on illicit drugs and do not remember anything that happened! That will more often lead to regret next morning.

There are some basic ‘rules’ to achieving and maintaining a deep romantic loving relationship with another person. These include (in no particular order);

1. Never rush into a romantic relationship. Never force it, let it grow. at its own pace Give it space to become Consummate Love. Never expect the other person to live up to your expectations. It is not a competition. Accept that your love interest cannot give you attention 24/7. If you cannot do that get help.

2. Jealousy has no place in a loving relationship. The emotions that build include trust and acceptance.  Jealousy sparked by love can suggest you have a strong commitment to your partner and don’t want to lose them. However, jealousy is born from your own insecurities. Never snoop on their privacy. (Social media is in the public arena, so checking his or her social media accounts is not snooping). If you feel jealous discuss it with your partner. 

3. Love means doing things together yet giving each other space to pursue individual interests too. It is sharing without resentment.

4. Love is a risk. Everything worthwhile is a risk, including personal relationships. Are you brave enough to let yourself commit to another person unconditionally?

5. Love is not controlling, changing, or manipulating another person. If you feel a need to do those things – you are in the wrong relationship. 

6. Your Consummate lover should be your best friend to the exclusion of all others. Do you keep secrets from your partner but share them with someone else? So, love includes trust. Without trust – you are in the wrong relationship.

7. Consummate Love is being open and honest with your partner. Keep secrets between you and your partner. Prove you can be trusted. People outside the relationship do not need to know the details.

8. Love should involve some level of mutual compromise and sacrifice with your partner. If they are doing all the taking while you are doing all the giving. If your partner refuses to compromise, even after talking to them about it, then you are in the wrong relationship.

9. How to restore passion in your relationship? This and more relevant research and information is discussed in this article in the Psychology Today magazine.

10. If you are having difficulties within your relationship the person to talk about it with is your partner. It is about effective interpersonal communication, both ways. Thats what Marriage Counsellors are about –

11. Love is accepting we are all different and we have different opinions. So, it includes mutual respect.

12. No one is perfect. We all have imperfections – including yourself. So, love includes acceptance of yourself and your partner. Warts and all.

13.  A great marriage takes effort from both partners to commit to each other. If one is not in the relationship, then there is no relationship.

14. Ultimately, love is about accepting the other person for who they are. For better or worse. For richer or poor.er In sickness and in health. If you are not prepared for that, you are in the wrong relationship. So, love includes being unconditional.

15. ‘Lust’ is not love. Although Consummate Love often starts with lust and overtime develops into something more. However, lust can also develop into ….  hate! We all know a couple who met and enjoyed a passionate whirlwind ‘romance’. Perhaps a baby was born, and it all became too much hard work. Then what they had together burnt out and died (typically somewhere between 6 and 24 months). The lust filled relationship – not the baby of course. They had the passion but no commitment. Then the passion died, and they had nothing.

16. When you have those important talks you can both have a ‘special word’ that means turn off the phone we need to talk. Stop everything and actively listen. Aim to listen at least 50 per cent of the conversation by silencing the self-talk in your head and listening. Then ask intelligent questions to clarify and understand what your partner is communicating. Look into your partners eyes – very important as you listen.

17. Physical, non-sexual, touch. Hugs caresses. whispers. Time alone. A favorite tune? Long walks on the beach together? Which of these are your ‘love language’? Do you have others?

18. Never forget the little things you used to do for your partner – and do them again. Fresh flowers? A favorite home cooked meal? A special song? Her favorite perfume? Make time for each other – if only a few minutes.

10. You are never too busy to say “I love you” every day with a gentle kiss.

Always ask your partner about their day. Listen and share.

“You get all the love you think you deserve. You deserve it all. But you need to work on it together.”

If you have trouble finding someone who can love you, maybe you should be looking at yourself. Do you have a deep self-belief that you ‘do not deserve love’, or perhaps you believe you ‘do not deserve happiness’? If this rings true for you get help.

There are many kinds of love, but the inter-personal love of a romantic relationship with a compatible partner begins with learning how to be loving through the inter-personal love between a mother and child.

It is vital that a mother loves her child so that child feels secure and develops the foundations of a healthy self-esteem. The joys and the pain, because it is through those that we learn and grow the most.

Children need to feel love and to feel wanted. Children need to learn about balanced commitment, passion, and emotional intimacy from their primary role models. I don’t think it matters if the parents are heterosexual or lesbian or homosexual as long as they have balanced commitment, passion, and emotional intimacy for each other. and their children witness and enjoy unconditional love.

Now that I have 20/20 vision about my own marriage, I realise I/we would have benefited by asking a series of probing questions on our first and second dates. These are revealing questions on a first date for anyone.

• Q. Tell me about your parents and siblings?
• Q. Who is your best friend, that you share all your secrets with?
• Q. What items are at the top of your bucket list?
• Q. If you inherited a fortune tomorrow what would be the first things you would do with it?
• Q. What is your dream job?
• Q. What do you do for charity, for other people, without expectation of anything in return?
• Q. How do you feel about having children?
• Q. Are you prepared to sacrifice your own wants and desires (your bucket list) for your relationship. and for your future children?
• Q. If they made a movie about you, who would you choose to play the role of you?
• Q. If they made a movie about your life who would you choose to play the role of your leading man/lady?
• Q. What is your language of love?
• Q. What is your hidden talent?
• Q. What is your hidden addiction?
• Q. What did you do with your spare time during the pandemic?
• Q. Have you had a relationship (or an affair) with a married person? (Are you currently married?)
• Q. Why did you come on this date with me? What/who are you looking for and why?

Of course, you must be prepared to answer these same questions truthfully in return.

Synonyms of the word love include; acceptance and affection and appreciation and commitment and devotion and emotion and fondness and friendship’s and infatuation and lust and passion. Also tenderness and trust and adulation and , allegiance and attachment and cherishing and delight and devoted and enjoyment and fidelity and involvement and like and rapture and regard and worship.

The image above shows the same bike as the previous image, yet the loving couple now hidden (subliminal) – have arrived and inside the Grand Secret Bookshop of Hidden Knowledge? Come inside …

The Welcome Love subliminal messages and others are simply ‘hidden’ from the conscious mind within pleasant masking music and relaxing environmental sounds to prevent conscious analytical thinking, which may ‘filter out’ messages.

People who feel they have love in their lives also feel self-fulfillment and self-love. The first step toward finding love is changing one’s own self-talk. Even if that self-talk means ‘faking it until you make it’, so that you can create your own new self-beliefs.

Another simpler way is to listen to the Welcome Love MP3 often.

Our unconscious mind gathers information to create beliefs. These beliefs drive our behaviors and emotions too. Our unconscious mind is the ‘foreman’ of the metabolism. So, we can create unconscious emotions and beliefs to Welcome Love.

PRIME HYPNOSIS MP3’s incorporating these affirmations, following a Classic hypnotic induction with professional hypnotherapists Peter Zapfella and Coral Conrad will be added to the line-up

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All of the ‘Welcome Love’ MP3’s are available individually or bundled together and discounted by 50 per cent.
They are; (1) Environmental ‘Gentle lake waves’ (2) Pleasant ‘guitar and piano’ music (3) ‘Zumba’ style Latin dance music and (4) seXXX binaural waves. Bundled discount price is $19.98. So you save $19.98

Rhythmic, rhyming Rap speaks to the ‘street culture’ across different genders, ages, languages, nationalities, races and religions. They may not understand or trust ‘therapy’, and ‘hypnosis’. But they do understand Rap. In time, these therapeutic Hipno Hop Raps become new deep unconscious beliefs leading to new positive behaviors and emotions. They are hypnotically powerful.

 

A man’s sexual preference does not make him more or less a man. Just because heterosexuality is more ‘common’ does not make it ‘right’ while making homosexuality ‘wrong’.  

‘Tall’ is no more ‘right’ than being born a ‘short’ person.

Being ‘white skinned’ is no more ‘right’ than being born ‘dark skinned’.

That type of thinking was discarded a long-time ago because it is both discriminatory and untrue.

You can be proud to welcome acceptance of sexuality for gay men everywhere.

Click Here to listen to ‘homophobia’ Podcast.

Almost every homosexual has ‘straight’ parents. They are raised in a family, religion and culture that teaches them that heterosexual relationships are the norm. They may learn that anything outside the norm is unacceptable, a sin, unnatural, or even illegal. Media support this concept. Anyone who may be homosexual is rejected. There are no strong role models.

They may ‘play the straight game’ seeking acceptance. As a result, they feel conflicted. They may fall into depression, and even alcohol and substance abuse.

Fact: Homosexuality is not a mental illness. Psychiatry and religion cannot convert gay men into ‘straight’ men. They tried many times and failed every time. A few men have ‘played the straight game’ but they have tortured themselves and ultimately failed. This has ultimately caused others heartache too. It is always better to accept your own sexuality and accept yourself.

My late wife’s nephew, a young gay slightly effeminate man, met a girl at the theater where he worked. She had two gay brothers. She felt an attraction to him, which may have been based on something familiar that made her feel comfortable. He was very attractive, tall, blonde and blue eyed. A nice friendly personality.

I might add, his mother did not approve of his homosexuality.

Eventually, he gave up his gay lifestyle to marry her. His mother was ecstatic. They had a child, and about two years later he left her and their child to return to his former gay lifestyle. He was obviously conflicted. His real self-won, and he stopped playing the straight game. His mother was disappointed.

While this scenario is not uncommon, some other gay men find a ‘middle path’ where they can live an outward ‘straight’ life and keep their gay lifestyle in the ‘closet’ (a secret).

I know a man now aged in his 70’s. He told me while he is gay, he married when young because his family did not approve of homosexuality. At the time he was in a very happy closeted homosexual relationship. Then he married because of pressure from his family.  He remained closeted and continues to ‘see’ other men to this day. He said, although he loves his wife, he is disappointment he made the wrong decision to marry all those years ago.

Increasingly, in many countries, young men who are same sex attracted feel no need to hide who they really are.

Fact: While there is no single “gay gene,” there is overwhelming evidence of a biological basis for sexual orientation that is programmed into the brain before birth based on a mix of genetics and prenatal conditions, none of which the fetus chooses, according to ‘Stop calling it a choice: Biological factors drive homosexuality’

Two strong indicators exist. Either could apply in your circumstance.

1. Homosexuality appears to follow down the maternal side of your family. If you are gay, chances are more likely than not your mother has more than average gay brothers and cousins and uncles. Your sisters have gay sons. Or,
2.  Unrelated to close ‘gay’ relatives on the maternal side, you have a number of ‘straight’ older brothers.

These are genetic and prenatal conditions way beyond your control. 

Fact; While many ‘out-of-touch’ heterosexuals think homosexuality is a choice, they are confused with their own adolescent ‘same-sex attractions’, which are part of every man’s sexual maturity. Heterosexuals are no ‘gayer’ than homosexuals are ‘straight’.

Some men happily ‘swing both ways’. They are happy with a sexual partner of either sex, although they usually have a preference. They are called bisexual.

Accept yourself and find true happiness whatever your sexual attraction. Just remember you cannot make everyone happy all the time – so accept yourself for who you are.

It all becomes so much more confusing when we consider that romantic and sexual attraction are two different things. You can be romantically attracted to a man and sexually attracted to a woman. or the other way around. For that matter you can be romantically attracted to one man and sexually attracted to another. I am going to leave you with that conundrum to sort out for yourself.

Fact: Homosexuality is still illegal in some countries. See the map below. Gay men can be sacked by their employers in some countries, for example Singapore. It is punishable by death in a few. For example, Uganda. Where I grew up in Australia homosexuality was still illegal when I was aged in my 20’s. Now we have legal same-sex marriage. The tide is turning around the world.

The map below shows (in brown, orange and yellow) the remaining ‘anti-gay’ countries.

The dark blue colour on the map shows countries where same sex marriage is now legal. Some Asian countries, such as Taiwan now have same-sex marriage. Others such as Thailand, Vietnam, the Philippines and some Pacific nations will follow in time.

An alliance led by Thailand’s progressive Move Forward Party has signed an ambitious agreement to draft a new constitution, end monopolies and allow same-sex marriage, among other aims.

Bangkok (AFP) – Thailand took a step towards marriage equality Wednesday as lawmakers gave initial approval to legalising same-sex unions, prompting celebrations outside the parliament building. It is a significant landmark in a Buddhist-majority country with a highly visible LGBTQ community but whose members still face major barriers and discrimination. The lower house approved two bills that would allow same-sex marriages and also two others that would permit civil partnerships. Issued on: 15/06/2022 – 12:52

I think Central and South America will eventually infill in blue too.

Worldwide laws regarding same-sex intercourse, unions, and expression.

  Death Prison Marriage Civil unions  Limited domestic  

Limited foreign Restrictions of expression.

Fact: Gay men usually make wonderful uncles, and sometimes choose to be parents themselves. While ‘straight’ men may have accidental children, the child of a gay father was no accident. Your happiness inspires unconditional love in them.

Fact: Some ‘straight men’ want oral and perhaps anal sex with another man, not because they are gay and attracted to another man or men. They just enjoy the sex. For them gay men are better at oral sex than women, and gay men enjoy giving and receiving anal sex more than women. It’s more about the sex, not the individual. These men have a desire for giving and receiving erotic pleasure with another man, often governed by individual boundaries. These boundaries could be “You can suck me, but I won’t suck you’, ‘[ don’t kiss other guys’, “Mutual masturbation is fine with me’, ‘Yeah, I like to 69 with a guy’, “I am strictly a ‘top’ or ‘I need to be fucked hard in the ass by a real man sometimes’. Are they ‘gay’ or ‘bisexual’? They certainly don’t think they are, however, they may be bisexual or perhaps ‘closet gay’?

Fact; Homophobes make-up excuses to disguise their own prejudices and fears. One unfounded claim is that gay men are more inclined to drug and alcohol problems than straight men. While this may be true for some individuals caused by the bigots and prejudices from homophobes they live with every day, it is not generally true at all. Your unconditional love defeats fear and anxiety.

Fact: Another claim by bigots and chauvinists is that the human immunodeficiency viruses (HIV) and the acquired immune deficiency syndrome (AIDS) were sent by God to punish homosexuals. This unfounded claim ignores the science. The retrovirus that causes HIV passes from one person to another through body fluids. It can and does pass between genders (male and female) through any exchange of body fluids from an infected person to an uninfected person.

Yes, HIV/AIDS infection is common among gay men, as it is among intravenous drug users of any gender too. That is because they are inclined to share body fluids through their activities.  However, there are roughly 24 million people of both genders infected by HIV/AIDS in Africa. More than 90 percent of the world’s HIV-positive children live in Africa. Gender and sexuality have nothing to do with it.

People have been infecting each other with sexually transmitted infections for hundreds, perhaps thousands of years. Sexual preference never came into it, and nor did God’s will. So why drag homosexuals into the fray now?

‘They doth protest too much, methinks” 

Fact or Fiction? Gay bashing and gay bullying is an attack, abuse, or assault committed against a person who is perceived by the aggressor to be LBGTIQ. The aggressor is more often than not a homophobic closet gay themselves? Are they are trying to deflect attention away from themselves and their secret?  Are they suffering inner conflict and incongruence? We ask the question: Why are they out after dark looking for gay men when they could be looking for straight women? Perhaps they need counselling themselves?

Do you want some research to help you decide? Science magazine reported there is a “scattering of research” that suggests “some conflicted gay men might indeed be homophobic,” like a small 1996 study in the Journal of Abnormal Psychology that measured penile arousal and found a link between “homophobia” and “homosexual arousal.”

I remember meeting two house mates of a friend of mine many years ago. They proudly boasted about their ‘gay bashing’ exploits as if it somehow made them more ‘macho’. In the next breath, they talked about their intention to share a prostitute and how they wanted to experience double penetration together. They seemed conflicted to me. As they were talking, I felt as if they were boyfriends.

Rather than being heard to “protest too much” and drawing attention to contradictions about their own sexuality, perhaps these people should be listening to their ‘Welcome Acceptance of Sexuality for Gay Men’ MP3?

Fact: Then there is the religious argument. Some people claim their interpretation of Leviticus 18:22 in the Old Testament of the Bible states that homosexuality is wrong. (this passage encompasses Muslim, Christian and Jewish religions) Others point out it is a reference to prostitution, specifically male prostitution. This is supported by 1 Kings 15:12. “He expelled the male shrine prostitutes from the land and got rid of all the idols his ancestors had made.”

Leviticus was recorded at the time of Moses leading the Jews out of Egypt. The instructions of Leviticus emphasize ritual, legal and moral practices including animal scarifies to God. I question people who like to quote this passage suggesting homosexuality is wrong – ‘do you also do animal scarifies to God?’ If they do, then they can claim the ‘high ground’. If they do not, they are hypocrites.

Fact: Temple prostitutes, both male and female were a part of Egyptian religion. Moses was trying to divorce his people from those practices.

There will always be bigots who will mis interpret the Bible to support their own prejudices. But that is no excuse for them trying to enforce their position on other people in the privacy of their own bedrooms. Jesus taught ‘love’. He had nothing to say about homosexuals anywhere in the New Testament of the Bible. In my view Christians should be led by the teachings of Jesus Christ (who said ‘I am the way’ while the instructions of Leviticus were now irrelevant. Mathew 12:1 to 12:8).

The teachings of ancient religious practices (such as animal sacrifices) have been dumped by Christians. So why hang on to references to Egyptian temple prostitutes?  They are irrelevant to Christians today. In my view some Christians focus too much on the Old Testament and the books written by Paul, while they seem to ignore the teachings of Jesus Christ. who taught unconditional love Are they really Christians at all?

Bible bigots like to quote Paul. But the truth is Paul was not one of Jesus 12 disciples. He never knew Jesus in his lifetime. He was in fact a Roman citizen, a tax collector. Paul has a lot to say in the New Testament of the Bible. He wrote 13 of the books, a significant proportion. But one thing is certain for theologians who have studied Paul. He was disliked by many. He was apparently a small, ugly man who had a ‘chip on his shoulder‘. He seems to have hated women, and gays, and others. He was not speaking for Jesus. He was speaking for himself. People who quote Paul in their anti-gay rants are really scraping the bottom of the barrel. Christians should be following the teachings of Jesus Christ, rather some bigoted interloper who had never met the living Jesus.

Fact: The Bible outlaws many different things we do today. Here are just a few,

1. According to Leviticus 19:19, people were forbidden to wear clothing made of two or more different materials. Wool and cotton are not permitted together.
2. Eating pork, rabbit, or fish without fins and scales (e.g., clams, oysters, shrimp, crabs etc). Leviticus 11:7-12.
3. Eating any creatures that creep or have been strangled cannot be eaten. “You shall not eat any detestable thing”. Deuteronomy 14:3  
4. No honey, with certain exceptions. Leviticus 2:11.
5. Rare steak is banned. Leviticus 17:10-14.
6. Drinking wine is fine, but only in moderation. Jesus first recorded miracle was turning water into wine. He apparently liked a glass of Chardonay. Proverbs 23:20-21.
7. Shaving the face. (but the head must be shaven under certain circumstances) Leviticus 19:27.
8. Tattoos or body piercings.  Leviticus 19:28.
9. Women must cover their heads. 1 Corinthians 11;6.
10. No jewelry. No hairstyling. Men must not cut or shave the hair on the sides of their head. Timothy 2:9.
11. Women speaking in the church, but ‘speaking in tongues’ is fine. 1 Corinthians 14:34-35.
12. Banning mothers from the church. Leviticus 12:2, 
13. Women cannot wear men’s clothing and men cannot wear women’s clothing. Jeans and pants suits are out for women, and Scottish Kilts are not on for men. Deuteronomy 22:5.
14. Divorce. Mark 10:9-12.
15. No Tarot readings. No fortune tellers. But ‘religious prophets’ are fine. Leviticus 19:31.
16. A priest cannot have a ‘blemish in the eye’ or ‘be lame’ or have a flat nose. So those with authority in the church cannot wear glasses or have difficulty walking, according to Leviticus 21.

and the list goes on and on. If some people want to use the Bible verses to attack gays, perhaps they should look at their own practices first. Jesus warned against hypocritical, self-righteous people in Matthew 7:1-5.

Fact: Humans share homosexuality and bisexuality with animals. 

“No animal species has been found in which homosexual behavior has not been shown to exist, with the exception of species that never have sex at all, such as sea urchins and aphids”  –Petter Bøckman

Homosexual behavior has been observed by researchers in more than 1,500 animal species.

Fact: Since prehistory, gay men have proven themselves as talented creators and innovators in almost every human endeavor. You are in good company and can be proud as a gay man.

How you choose to live your life as a gay man is your choice. Some choose to be ‘out’ and perhaps flamboyant, while at the other end of the spectrum some choose to be ‘closeted’ and keep their bed-room preferences on a ‘need to know’ basis. Your choice should always be based on what makes you most comfortable and happy.

I have conducted an informal ‘straw ballot’ of gay men online and asked them all the same simple question. “If you could take a pill that would make you straight, would you take it?” I think I have had only one who said ‘yes’, and since then he has changed his mind and said ‘no‘.

I then asked them ‘Why?” and the typical answer was “I feel happy in myself.” and a few added. “Plus, I love cock.”

Homophobes want homosexuality to be invisible. That way they somehow feel ‘safer’. They feel that way because of their own upbringing and culture.

Change is constant, and our cultures adapt to those changes. To quote the Borg ‘Resistance is futile.’ Change is constantly happening, and if that change is in the face, it cannot be ignored.

Many people who come out as gay and lesbian are accepted by their loved ones, but not all are. So be prepared. Talk to other gays about their experiences. Prepare your responses to the most likely questions and comments from your family and friends. Perhaps contact organisations such as PFLAG for support. PFLAG are the parents, guardians, family and friends of LGBTIQ+.

If you are unsure how someone who is important in your life will react to you telling them you are gay, try ‘testing the waters’ by asking them what they think about other gay men.

You can:

• Ask them if they personally know any gay men?
• Ask their opinions about famous and celebrity gay men?
• Ask them what they think about same-sex marriage and gay couples who have children.

Through these discussions you will be able to determine if they are generally positive or negative about gay men. Do not expect them to be gushing with positivity about everything and everyone. Ultimately you want to determine how they might react and if they will support you.

It is true that some people have difficulty accepting other people who are different from them in some way. That is their prejudice. That is their problem to deal with and perhaps overcome.

Their prejudice is not the responsibility or problem of the person, persons or community they feel prejudiced against – it is their problem. Being faced, close up, with their prejudice is also an opportunity for them to learn and grow.

Your Welcome Acceptance of Sexuality for Gay Men subliminal affirmation MP3’s can assist you to overcome low self-esteem and confidence while building a strong belief in who you are.

I had a young gay man come to me to quit tobacco smoking. He was somewhat masculine, a truck driver who appeared ‘straight’. He told me that he was very happy in his sexuality and added that his single ‘straight’ co-workers and friends were lucky if they could ‘score’ sex once or twice a year, while he had sex with a new partner every weekend, and more often anytime he wanted. “I can go online and ‘hook up’ with another hot guy within minutes,” he told me. “My mates have to pay for it,” he laughed.

“For me being gay is the best.”

Learning Morse Code

In a world with electronic communications including mobile cell phones, SMS texts, emails, Voice Over Internet Protocols such as Skype, Facetime and Facebook Messenger people still welcome learning morse code.

Welcome Learning Morse Code – Podcast

I originally tried to learn the Morse Codes series of “dits” and “dahs” as they correspond to the many letters of the alphabet in 1975. I struggled, while some of my friends excelled.

More recently I discovered a whole new Morse code learning experience.

Fact: Learning Morse code by traditional methods is slow and difficult. Studies by Alden B. Sears (University of Denver) using both hypnotized subjects and a control group using traditional methods to learn Morse code found the hypnotized group scored better, more accurate results when tested. 

History; Welcome Learning Morse Code

Samuel Finley Breese Morse (1791 to 1872) contributed to the invention of the single-wire telegraph system. Then in 1837 he co-developed the  American Morse code, and helped to develop the commercial use of telegraphy. It was complicated and included a Code Book.

Morse’s telegraph receiver used a mechanical clockwork to move a paper tape. Indentations on a paper tape corresponded to numerals. Each number had to be decoded using a book. The process was slow and tedious. Alfred Vail included letters and special characters. He estimated the frequency of letters that were used in a printer’s shop. The letters most commonly used were assigned the shortest sequences of dots and dashes.

In 1848 Friedrich Clemens Gerke (1801  to 1888) simplified the original Morse code into the “dits” and “dahs” we know today. Samuel Morse’s overly complicated code was superseded by the International Morse code in 1865. The International Morse code we use today was an improvement over the American Morse code. Perhaps the thing we need to acknowledge is that Gerke was a musician (his primary communication modality was auditory). He understood something that Samuel Morse, as an artist (his primary communication modality was visual) did not. More on that later.

Morse code can be transmitted using sound or light pulses by people skilled in sending and receiving through radio and other methods. Morse code can be transmitted as a visual signal using flashing lights or reflections such as between ships during radio silence. In the past, it has famously been used by prisoners in jails tapping on walls and water pipes.

It can also be used as a subtle form of communication using the tapping of fingers or even blinking of eyes.

…………………………………………Morse Code by blinking eyes video.

International Morse code encodes the 26 basic Latin letters a through z, one accented Latin letter (é), the Arabic numerals, and a small set of punctuation and procedural signals (prosigns). There is no distinction between upper and lower case letters.

In the late 1800’s before the invention of voice radio, Morse code was used through telegraph lines, undersea cables, and radiotelegraphy to link ships and countries. A series of abbreviations called the ‘Q codes’ were developed to speed accurate communication.  By 1930 aircraft pilots were required to be able to use Morse code because navigation beacons used it to identify themselves.

Through the final years of the 20th century the commercial and military use of Morse code was replaced by new technologies.

In July 2003 the International Telecommunication Union (ITU) removed the requirement for Morse code proficiency as part of world-wide amateur radio licensing for HF bands and other bands below 30 Mhz.

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However, Morse code is as popular as ever in the world of amateur radio. Morse code ‘cuts through’ most natural (QRN) and made (QRM) noise and interference by using a mode called Continuous Wave (CW). CW (or continuous wave) is a form of ‘digital transmission’ in that it is either ‘on’ or ‘off’. It is interrupted continuous wave (ICW). Using Morse Code or CW one can work hundreds of countries with only a few watts and a basic antenna.

Operators are also known as ‘hams’. The term “ham” (like “ham actor”) is a nickname for amateur radio operators. It originated with commercial and professional radio operators to differentiate themselves from amateurs, although many are themselves professionals who choose a hobby related to their skills and interests.

Amateur radio operators around the globe use lingo or jargon to speed and simplify communication. These have generally been inherited from the military and other professional communications users. (Many licensed ham radio operators are former military or professional electronics technicians) Much of this jargon has been included in the downloads here.

I guess when it all boils down to it,  Morse is an international language that only we know. We can communicate using it worldwide even when all other forms of communications have failed.  It is a widely understood international language.

Morse and CW works when radio voice (SSB and AM) fails due to interference. Radio works when mobile cell phones, Internet, and landlines are down due to someone digging up cables by mistake, or perhaps hackers and disasters such as earthquakes, storms and floods, and even war. Morse and CW are incredible fun. But only if you know how to send and receive.

In addition, ham radio repeaters and beacons usually identify themselves with their call signs in morse code, just as aircraft navigation beacons used to do in the past.

I am one of almost three million licensed amateur radio operators world-wide. My official call sign is VK6 PBS. To other ham operators around the world the VK prefix represents Australia. The number 6 represents my home state of Western Australia (WA) and I was able to choose and register the PBS suffix myself (for an extra fee) with the Australian governments relevant regulatory authorities – the Australian Communications and Media Authority (ACMA).

Special Event/Day & Competitions in Australia may use these prefixes. AX, VJ, VL

Australian state and territory numbers are;

• 0   Antarctic Territory & Heard Island, Macquarie Island Not shown on map_
• 1    Australian Capital Territory (Canberra)
• 2    New South Wales
• 3    Victoria
• 4    Queensland
• 5    South Australia
• 6     Western Australia
• 7    Tasmania
• 8    Northern Territory
• 9    External Islands (such as Lord Howe Island, Norfolk and Christmas Island. Since November 2009 VK9 individual islands callsigns are no longer designated by a special letter.) Not shown on map.

In Australia the Advanced level only (vanity callsigns) are AA to ZZ

In Australia the usual Advanced, Standard and Foundation callsigns are AAA to ZZZ

(This means as an Australian operator increases their level of class through examinations, they can retain their original callsign, unless they want to change to a vanity 2 letter callsign)

Former Foundation 4 letter callsigns FAAA to FZZZ

(A few early Foundation licensees still use their ‘F ‘callsigns, although they can update to a 3 letter callsign at any time)

In most countries the callsign suffix may indicate the licensee’s level or class. That was the same in Australia until July 29, 2020, however that now only applies to vanity 2 letter callsigns and some older Foundation callsigns.

Generally, the higher the level of license the more likely the requirement for more advanced skills, which may include Morse code in some countries. The higher the level of license the higher transmit power levels permitted, and the more radio spectrum frequencies permitted to be used. These radio bands have portions set aside only for Morse Code CW.

In the USA the amateur radio operator callsign denotes their license after having passed examinations in applicable regulations, electronics, radio theory, and radio operation type/level of competency and therefore the frequency bands they can access. In the USA the 3 levels of ham radio license are Technician, General, and Extra.

In some countries there is still a specific examination to prove the skill of amateur radio operators in the receiving and sending of Morse code.

In the Philippines for example, Class A (Extra Class) ham radio operators must still pass a Morse Code send and receive test at the rate of 5 words per minute plus a written theory exam. As a result, they have greater privileges than Class B (General Class), Class C (Technician Class) and Class D (Foundation Class) licensees. In addition, all radio transceivers must be registered by the government. The Radio Amateur Operator Certificate (RAOC) is available to those who have qualified for a callsign, but do not own registered radio equipment.

It should be noted that in July 2003 the International Telecommunication Union (ITU) removed its requirement for proficiency in Morse code to be part of global amateur radio licensing for bands below Very High Frequency (VHF) bands (30 MHz). Therefore, the requirement by some countries for ham radio operators to qualify at a certain Morse Code send and receive speed is their own prerogative, perhaps for historical reasons?  There may be some consideration given to having a grouping of certified operators in case of disasters or war? This security measure may also be a consideration for registering radio equipment. 

Yet ham radio operators around the world still want to learn the skill because it opens up a whole realm of enjoyment of the hobby. It ‘cuts through’ adverse propagation conditions when other modes fail. It is truly international, allowing ham radio operators from different countries and languages to communicate. (Often using ham radio jargon).

Amateur radio operators continue to use the ‘Q codes’ and the Phonetic Alphabet, which were originally developed for the original telegraph networks and the military.

Back in 1974 I learnt the phonetic alphabet, then the Q codes, and other amateur radio jargon. I originally tried to learn the Morse Codes series of “dots” and “dashes” using a wall chart and listening to cassette tapes, as they correspond to the many letters of the alphabet. I focused on wall charts and struggled, while some of my friends excelled. At that time, I worked in the field of emergency communications using modern HF/SSB, VHF/FM and UHF/FM radios and repeaters – not CW/morse code.

As I said earlier Samuel Morse was an artist. His primary communication modality was visual. Not surprisingly he developed a complex communications system called the American Morse Code that needed a Code Book. It did not translate well into sound for many people and was eventually replaced in 1865 by the more practical International Morse Code.

More recently I discovered that Friedrich Clemens Gerke was a musician. Obviously, his primary communication modality was auditory. So, if we approach Morse code as musical rhythm, rather than a visual “dots” and “dashes”, it is whole different learning experience.

You no doubt know it is easier to remember the words of a song when it is connected to a melody rather than learning the written words on a page. Once you have learnt the song through the melody it is easier to recall the words of the song without the melody. That is a secret to learning Morse code! Another is practice and more practice. (More details follow)

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Fact: Learning Morse code by traditional methods is slow and difficult. Studies by Alden Sears from the University of Denver, using both hypnotized subjects and a control group using traditional methods to learn Morse code found the hypnotized group scored better, more accurate results when tested. Source: A comparison of hypnotic and waking learning of the International Morse Code. Sears, Alden B. International Journal of Clinical and Experimental Hypnosis. 1955/10/01

Dr. Ainslie Meares M.B., B.S., BAgr., Sc.D.P.M. Melbourne, Australia reported his research proved that hypnosis could improve motivation to learn.

The two Welcome Learning Morse Code subliminal MP3s (#1 covers A to M and #2 N to Z AND numbers. Code tones AND words) are coupled together. BONUS: You also receive a wall chart showing the Morse code “dits” and “dahs” AND the corresponding melody or poetry method used in the MP3s, so you can both see and hear as you learn. Welcome Learning Morse Code subliminal MP3 covers numbers 0 to 9. You also receive the Q Code Chart and the (ICAO, ITU or NATO) Phonetic Alphabet Chart used by Amateur radio operators world-wide.

You will receive an HF Logbook page. It is important to keep a log record of all of your HF contacts be they Morse Code/CW or SSB or AM or other modes. One good reason is, your log is a legal document and can be used to analyze possible causes if you are accused of causing TVI/RF interference. In addition, Radio Inspectors may want to examine it. Another good reason for a logbook is to confirm QSO’s with other ham radio operators. The third is for your own information. You can see what time of day or night, what antenna, what bands and frequencies achieve best results for you.

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These are subliminal MP3s available separately with various foreground environmental effects and music. It is also available with a preceding hypnosis induction.  

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Once you have learnt to recognize the Morse code alphabet you can practice listening (RX) to ‘slow Morse’ sessions broadcast by various Amateur Radio clubs, groups and organizations around the world to develop your speed. Then you can practice sending (TX) by using your own key.

• Morse code wall charts might help in the early stages to consciously clarify a few things about the series of “dots‘ and “dashes”. Morse code is really a rhythmic language using “dits” and “dahs”. You can take my word for it, you cannot learn morse code by looking at a wall chart or poster alone.
• Morse through radio is a sound. While it can be visual using other methods, the easiest way to learn it is through the melody or rhythm. 
• Become familiar with the sound of every letter and number (and punctuation).
• Practice sending (TX) every day for 20 to 30 minutes. Start with your full name. Then whole sentences.
• While a pencil is handy while learning at low speeds, they are really used for logbook entries, not for writing received (RX). Morse code faster than about 15 words-per-minute is too fast to write down. At higher speeds you need to be able to hear whole words – not individual letters. That’s how we speak! Can you imagine if we all had to communicate by spelling out every word we say?
• Once you have a handle of the individual letters and numbers start learning whole words to increase your receive (RX) speed.
• The Koch-Farnsworth method is one way to increase speed and learn words.
• The CW Academy claim if you do their online Zoom course, plus 30 minutes home study every day, within 8 weeks you will be able to send and receive at the rate of 15 to 25 words.
• The Morse Mail Phone App is another way to practice.

If you are not already a licensed Amateur Radio operator you can join a local club, group or association where they usually run trainings in preparation for license exams, on a regular basis. Courses are also available online. Some have a small fee and some are free.

For many years I put off siting for my Amateur Radio License until a licensed ‘ham’ friend (Ken VK2MKK) encouraged me to ‘have a go’. I sat the exam and attained a 100 per cent pass rate. If you have the passion, you can do it too. Information about Welcome Learning Ham Radio Theory MP3s is listed below.

For many people Covid-19 has emphasized the potentials for unanticipated natural disasters, calamities and even war (think Ukraine), Cell mobile phones, Internet and landline communications are vulnerable and unreliable. Amateur radio has a wide range of modes (including morse code/CW) and frequency bands available. They can quickly establish reliable local. national and international communications. Ham radio enthusiasts are experienced in portable operation, including handheld and backpack communications. People who choose to plan for the worst possible scenario (including preppers) would do well to attain their amateur radio license and learn Morse Code.

If you are already a licensed Amateur Radio operator and seeking to upgrade your license and therefore your operating privileges, you can join a local club, group or association. You can get involved in trainings, tech building workshops and amazing new technology (including repeaters, amateur radio satellites and ISS. (talk directly with crew members of the International Space Station through amateur radio). , light cube satellite,  antenna design and building, skills development, and RF signal propagation, fox hunt competitions, weekends away, social groups, swap meets, slow CW sessions, WIN LINK, ECHO LINK, MESH,  old fashioned HF/DX around the world, Scouts Jamboree of the Air (JOTA), emergency communication preparedness, community service, and more.

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MP3 #1

1 dash = 3 dots. Space between dots and dashes of same letter = 1 dot. Space between letters = 3 dots. Space between words = 7 dots.

(Lower case word is one dot. Words in caps are one dash)

A             a (1 dot pause) PART

B             BOB (1 dot pause) is (1 dot) the (1 dot pause) man

C             COK (1 dot pause) a (1 dot pause) Col (1 dot pause) a

Sample C ‘Charlie’ Click > to listen

D             DOG (1 dot pause) did (1 dot pause) it

E              e

F              fetch (1 dot pause) a (1 dot pause) FIRE (1 dot pause) man

G             GOOD (1 dot pause) GRAV(1 dot pause) y

H             hi (1 dot pause) pi (1 dot pause) ti (1 dot pause) hop

I               i (1 dot pause) bid

J              in (1 dot pause) JAWS (1 dot pause) JAWS (1 dot pause) JAWS

K             KANG (1 dot pause) a (1 dot pause) ROO

L              los (1 dot pause) AN (1 dot pause) ge (1 dot pause) les

M            MMM (1 dot pause) MMM

Each letter includes the Morse code with the corresponding “dits” and “dahs” tones.

MP3 #2

1 dash = 3 dots. Space between dots and dashes of same letter = 1 dot. Space between letters = 3 dots. Space between words = 7 dots.

(Lower case word is one dot. Words in caps are one dash)

N             NU (1 dot pause) dist.

Sample N ‘November’ Click > to listen

O             OH (1 dot pause) MY (1 dot pause) GOSH

P             a (1 dot pause) POO (1 dot pause) PY (1 dot pause) smell

Q             GOD (1 dot pause) SAVE (1 dot pause) the (1 dot pause) QUEEN

R             ro (1 dot pause) TATE (1 dot pause) ion

S              si (1 dot) si (1 dot pause) si

T              TEE

U             un (1 dot pause) I (1 dot pause) FORM

V             vic (1 dot pause) t (1 dot pause) or (1 dot pause) VEE

W            the (1 dot) WORLD (1 dot pause) WAR

X             XSS (1 dot pause) marks (1 dot pause) the (1 dot pause) SPOT

Y              YOU’RE (1 dot pause) a (1 dot pause) COOL (1 dot pause) DUDE

Z              ZINC (1 dot pause) ZOO (1 dot pause) ki (1 dot pause) pa

Each letter includes the Morse code with the corresponding “dits” and “dahs” tones. If you are wondering a “dot” is a written “dit” and a “dash” is a written “dah”.

Since many natural languages use more than the 26 letters of the Latin alphabet, Morse alphabets have been developed for those languages, largely by transliteration of existing codes  For more information see ‘Morse code for non-Latin alphabets’ 

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Do you want to study for your Amateur Radio  License, but feel you cannot possibly learn the technical detail needed? Easy way to get your ham radio

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Perhaps you have not studied or sat an exam in many many years?

This series of subliminal affirmations and hypnosis was designed specifically for YOU! Plus loads of secrets to passing Amateur Radio licensing exams!    ree Hypnosis

There is no minimum age for people to sit the Australian Amateur Radio Theory exams. The youngest to pass so far was only 7 years old! The average Australian ham radio enthusiast is a male aged more than 50 years.

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You consult current textbooks and consider attending classes either online or in person. You make full use of online video courses and resources. You practice following the steps to successfully answering multiple choice questions and making accurate math calculations.

Every day in every way you feel better and better about yourself. You are now more-clear in the mind and more relaxed in the body about tests and examinations. You are more confident and coping better with everything and everybody, because you welcome learning ham radio theory.”

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There are hundreds of women and girls who are licensed Amateur Radio operators in Australia and many thousands around the world. In Australia they have an association called ALARA, which provides a grant to women who qualify at any level of license. There are other women’s ham radio associations in many other countries. Such as Young Ladies Radio League – USA and the British Young Ladies Radio Association. Others are listed with links on the Alara web site.

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Self-confidence is the belief in oneself and abilities, it describes an internal state made of what we think and feel about oneself. It is a self-evaluation or judgment.

The level of one’s own self-confidence can be observed in the way you carry yourself – behavior, body language, what you say and how you say it.

Confidence is a belief in one’s own ability to successfully perform a task. However, it does not necessarily mean there is an emphasis upon the outcome of the task, as much as the enjoyment and experience of it.

Confident individuals inspire others. They are often perceived as successful role models because people admire them. Related words include self-assurance, braveness, boldness, buoyancy, self-confidence, poise, self-reliantly, and tenacity,

A lack of self- confidence can become a self-fulfilling prophecy as one may self-sabotage one’s self and not attempt to win when the ability and opportunity are accessible. Low self-confidence is negative. It can be self-destructive. Related words include apprehension, cowardice, distrust, doubt, fear, hesitation, timidity, uncertainty, and weakness.

Self-confidence is founded upon a good balance between ability and the reality of informed risk. Under-confident people are either not prepared to take risks, or are self-defeatist. They underrate their own ability and overrate the risk. Over-confident people overrate their own ability, while underestimating the risk.

Self-confident people do not need to ‘win’ to feel fulfillment. They understand that ‘failure’ is only ‘feedback’ – a learning experience.

In the early 1980s, psychologist and author Dov Eden published the first in a series of extraordinary research results.

He could tell which soldiers in the Israel Defense Forces (IDF) would become top performers before they even started training.

In one study he examined comprehensive assessments of almost 1000 soldiers who were about to arrive for training with their platoons.

He had their aptitude test scores, evaluations during basic training, and appraisals from previous commanders.

Using this information alone, which was gathered before the beginning of training for the special forces, he was able to identify a group of high-potential trainees who would emerge as stars.

And sure enough, the candidates Eden spotted as high-potentials at the outset did ‘significantly better’ than their peers over the 3 months of training.

So… How did Dov Eden select the high-potentials? Did he get an insight from their aptitude tests?

Surprisingly not at all!

Did he get an inclination based on a soldier’s appraisal from a previous commander?

Not that either!

Did he, perhaps, have statistics built up from other evaluations?

None at all.

Turns out the psychologist Dov Eden just picked the names of those soldiers at RANDOM!

Then the chosen soldier’s were notified they had been assessed as high-potentials.

And the training officers of the Israel Defense Forces were also told which soldiers had the identified as high-potentials.

Then it was all just a matter of self belief and they were able to Welcome Self-Fulfillment.

There’s a lesson here;

If you want to perform at your highest potential – believe in yourself.

If you wonder how that is possible – keep reading.

If you want someone else to fulfill their highest potential – let them know in ADVANCE that they are special and absolutely capable of achieving their goals. They have the potential to perform at an elite level.

It works in the armed forces.

It works particularly well for children.

It works in sports.

It works across all spectrums of living, with people of all ages!

‘Welcome’ subliminal affirmations can be nothing less than miraculous.

Our unconscious mind gathers information to create beliefs. These beliefs drive our behaviors and emotions too. Our unconscious mind is the ‘foreman’ of the metabolism. So, we can create unconscious emotions and beliefs to Self Confidence.

As a young boy I was bereft of confidence. I recognized other boys had confidence, sureness, spunk, determination – all the qualities we see in confident people. I struggled through my school days against my own internal foes that controlled me.

I now realize my father had no confidence either. He was the youngest child in a large family dominated by a strict father and older brothers. He suffered from Aspergers Syndrome (undiagnosed) and was the most introverted person I have ever known. He had left school at the age of 12. As a role model he gave me zero confidence because he had none for himself. More often than not he would fall to pieces if talking to a stranger. His voice cracking, his body language betraying his inner thoughts and feelings. What chance did I have?

Luckily for me, my parents sent me away to boarding school for 7 years. There I was influenced by the other boys I lived with, and the various House Masters and teachers who taught me a different way to think and feel. It took time, years and years. In time something blossomed within me – self-confidence.

Initially my grades were dreadful. But as my confidence grew so did my grades. At the start of every school year, they expected I would fail, and every year I passed. Not only that, I began to excel. I did the impossible and achieved university entrance grades in my final exams. This was only possible because of my growing self-confidence and belief in myself.

Recently, when meeting old school friends, they told me how I inspired them. They said they saw me succeed and do the impossible. Now, as I look back over the years, I recognize many things I have done and achieved that still amaze me.

Those ‘milestones’ in my life may have been difficult. they may have been uncomfortable, even painful – but I did them. And every one of them built my self-confidence even more, like bricks in a wall.

“Self Confidence” Ted Talk Video by Dr Ivan Joseph

Doctor Joseph spoke about his experiences as a sports coach.

He said, “believe in yourself to accomplish any task no matter the odds, no matter the difficulty, no matter the adversity”. He added “self confidence is the belief that you can accomplish it”.

Self Confidence is a skill that can be learnt, not in an instant, not over night ”because it takes repetition, repetition and more repetition”.

“Do it a thousand times to develop the (particular) skill (you want to develop). It takes practice”, he said. He used the word “persistence”.

The second most important thing in developing self confidence he said is to use positive self-talk. Say it the way you want it. Get away from people who choose to tear you down. You do not need or want their negativity.

Doctor Joseph said, “Our thoughts influence our actions, and our own self beliefs”. Use positive affirmations to build your own self confidence and self-beliefs about yourself.

Mistakes are only learning opportunities. They are only mistakes if you never learn from them. As a coach he said, coaches fix players mistakes. So be your own life coach.

He suggested you write a sincere letter to yourself listing all your qualities and skills you are most proud. Then when you are feeling down, bring it out and read it to yourself aloud.

Do it right, then do it the same way again and again. Give zero energy to the negative.

The third and final message Doctor Joseph had about self-confidence was “Self-confident people interpret life the way they choose, they look for the positive in everything”.

There was an old man telling a boy about a fight between a wolf and a dog. “Which one do you think won the fight?” he asked the boy. “I don’t know” replied the boy. 

“The one YOU feed*” said the old man.

* with constant thoughts and words driving depression, anxiety and fears, self-limiting beliefs, and behaviors leading to phobias and bad habits. Or alternatively constant positive, self-empowering thoughts, feelings and words (such as Welcome subliminal affirmations, Prime Hypnosis and Hypno Hop Rap only at Internet Hypnosis dot Shop) which help to defeat anxiety, depression, fears (phobias), self-limiting belief’s, behaviors and bad habits.

It all starts somewhere. Internet Hypnosis dot Shop has various MP3’s to assist you. They start with Welcome subliminal affirmations, Prime Hypnosis and Hipno Hop Rap.

You can organise and plan your actions for greater self-confidence and success.

You can prioritize projects based upon your strengths, with a passion to win. 

You can start to welcome life with greater self-confidence and enthusiasm now because like other enthusiastic people you feel passionate about life.

You ooze self confidence. You approach every challenge with an energetic ‘can do’ attitude. You get satisfaction and enjoy doing what you do.

At least, that is your desired outcome, right?

A fundamental factor for enthusiastic people is their focused intent to overcome challenges that stand in the way of them achieving their desired goals. so, it is clear you need focused intent to start the process. Perhaps you need a workable plan? But most of all you need action. Needless to say, confidence is part of the mix too.

Enthusiasm is defined as ‘intense and eager enjoyment, interest, or approval:’ It is usually accompanied by confident playfulness, positivity, and energy.

Self-confidence is specifically belief in one’s own ability to achieve a goal, a specific task, or challenge.

Some words associated with enthusiasm include … craze, as in the latest craze. Buzz, trend, fad and in vogue have the same meanings too. Infatuation, lust and crush are used in a romantic sense. Cult, movement or fervor may be used when talking about political or religious enthusiasm.  

However, in modern terms perhaps the words that best align with enthusiasm are eagerness, excitement and passion for. I also like gusto, zeal, avidness and hunger.

“Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for ‘tis better to be alone than in bad company.’

Surround yourself with positive people who have the same or similar aspirations as yourself. Avoid negative people who only want to drag you down to their level, even if they are long term friends. Never allow them to influence your decisions, so better to ‘keep them in the dark’ on a ‘need to know’ basis.

Keep in mind that ‘stuck’ people are fearful. They are not prepared to take calculated risks.

My own father would make a decision and stick to it it through thick and thin. The truth is he lacked flexibility to shift according to new information. He did not always consider all the facts when making a decision and he paid the price.

On the other hand, my mother was a nurse, (her father was a Naval officer) she carefully evaluates the ‘advantages’ and ‘disadvantages’ before committing. She was frustrated by my father’s ‘gung-ho’ attitude. Yet they lived a long and successful marriage together. He lived well into his 80’s and she is now in her 100th year and still going strong.

In my own military training as an officer in the Australian Regular Army we learnt to use the best information (intelligence) when planning tactics. We would study all the available options and their relative ‘advantages and disadvantages, taking into careful consideration our resources and timings before committing to a decision. 

My advice to you is evaluate all reasonable possible risks. Consult widely as possible. Do your ‘due diligence’ (the investigation or exercise of care that a reasonable business or person is normally expected to take before entering into an agreement or contract with another party or an act with a certain standard of care), you research and make decisions with a level head. 

Be flexible to change course wherever possible when circumstances change.

Do what you know best and do it better than others. as they say, “A job worth doing is worth doing well’. Give it 100  per cent and see it through to successful completion with confidence.

Above all else believe in yourself. Organize and plan your actions around motivated success. Prioritize with consideration of your strengths, with enthusiasm and passion to win. You will discover that success builds confidence.

“Self-confidence and enthusiasm are an attitude.”

– Peter Zapfella.

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The genius mind strategies of the Einstein’s, Edison’s, da Vinci’s, Darwin’s, Hawking’s, Tesla’s, Galileo’s, Hubble’s, Newton’s and Mozart’s of history had some things in common.

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The genius mind is not about IQ and Mensa. Psychologists studying the genius mind have reached the conclusion that creativity is not the same as intelligence. An individual can be far more creative than he or she is intelligent, or far more intelligent than creative.

Almost everyone has genius within them. It’s your duty to tap into it or be plain and boring. The genius mind is simply the result of your own beliefs. The genius mind is the level of consciousness and capacity for creative output.

You can introduce genius thinking into your own mind so that you can focus you passion and your potential to do something special.

The genius mind knows how to think, not what to think.

When confronted with a problem, the genius mind asks, “How many different angles can I look at this?”, “How can I rethink this?”, and “How many different ways can I solve it?” instead of “What have I been taught by someone else?” The genius mind’s all come up with many different unconventional and possibly unique responses.

If one particular style of thought stands out about creative genius, it is the ability to make juxtapositions (that is placing two or more things side by side often to compare, or contrast, or to create an interesting result) between dissimilar subjects. Call it a facility to connect the unconnected that enables them to see things to which others are blind.

For example, Archimedes of Syracuse stepped into a bath and noticed that the water level rose, whereupon he suddenly realized the volume of water displaced must be equal to the volume of the part of his body he had submerged. This relation is not what is known as Archimedes’ principle—that deals with the upthrust experienced by a body immersed in a fluid. He then realized that the volume of irregular objects could be measured with precision, a previously intractable problem. How many people had stepped into a bath and never thought of the principal? Answer. Thousands, hundreds of thousands, millions. But it took his genius to put A and B together and get C.

Archimedes anticipated modern calculus and analysis by applying concepts of infinitesimals and the method of exhaustion to derive and rigorously prove a range of geometrical theorems, including the area of a circle, the surface area and volume of a sphere, and the area under a parabola. Other mathematical achievements include deriving an accurate approximation of pi, defining and investigating the spiral bearing his name, and creating a system using exponentiation for expressing very large numbers. He was also one of the first to apply mathematics to physical phenomena, founding hydrostatics and statics, including an explanation of the principle of the lever. He is credited with designing innovative machines, such as his screw pump, compound pulleys, and defensive war machines to protect his native Syracuse from invasion.

This is an example of the distinguishing characteristic of genius – immense creative productivity.

The genius mind is constantly combining and recombining ideas, images and thoughts into different combinations at all levels of their consciousness. 

The genius mind is able to think different thoughts because they can tolerate ambivalence between opposites or two incompatible subjects.

For the genius mind, an accident or mistake provokes the question: “What have we done? ‘What is this an example of?’ Answering that question is the essential creative act. Creative geniuses do not wait for the gifts of chance; instead, they actively seek their accidental discovery.

Synonyms for the word genius (in nonsensical sentences) include: ability or accomplishment also acumen & aptitude. Also brilliance and flair or  imagination and ingenuity plus inspiration. Intelligence and perhaps inventiveness or knack and originality with prodigy or prowess and talent with wisdom such as Einstein. Acuteness to adept or aptness & astuteness, Bent and brain or capability or capacity with creativity and discernment some say endowment. It is an expert  faculty with grasp and head for inclination and power with precocity and with propensity, and reach & sagacity to turn also understanding & virtuoso & mature & percipience, & super ability

One thing in particular that separates humanity from all the other animals on planet earth is the ability to use our minds to change and adapt to our environment, and to improve our lives from one generation to the next. No other animal species has ever been able to do this, and perhaps no other animal species ever will.

Over the past several hundred thousand years there have been various ‘human’ species that have become extinct. They failed to adapt to their changing environment, and they failed to exist. They became extinct, as have thousands of other animal species.

The Climate Change currently occurring on planet earth is nothing new. It has happened before, except it may be happening faster now, because of the effects of the Industrial Revolution that we humans created.

Other animal species have and will continue to decline as a result of Climate Change. Some have and some others will become extinct.

Humanity is not only resilient, it is also genius, because humans have the ability to research and discover not only how to survive Climate Change, and how to assist other animal and plant species to survive Climate Change. But we may have the ability to reverse Climate Change on a global scale? We may develop the ability to influence climate to some degree?  That is real genius in action.

Most humans have the ability to be genius. No other animal or plant species can become genius. They do not have the mental ability. however, we do.

Each of us has a potential. Each of us has a passion. You can use your passion and your potential together to understand and create something special, something unique. 

You can use your genius mind to make a profound difference not only in your life, but the lives of those around you. You can use your genius mind to change the lives of your nation, humanity and planet earth.  You have that ability, now go out and do it.

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Better martial arts performance helps a person to;

• stress release.
• frustration and anger release,
• builds immunity.
• increases stamina.
• improves focus, breaking free of distractions.
• builds self-disciplined.
• create friendships.
• builds self-confidence and self-esteem.
• improves physical flexibility.
• encourages weight control.
• improves focus and concentration.
• self-control.
• goal setting and achieving results through application.
• teaches respect and values.
• improves coordination, and athleticism.
• builds mental resilience.
• building integrity, the honorable way.
• shapes personal values of respect, tolerance, fairness and humility.
• comradery and team building.
• develops a strong mind, body and spirit.
• discourages bullying by others.
• confidence to protect yourself and others.

It is not about promoting violence as a way to deal with life’s challenges. In fact, it is the direct opposite of that.

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As people search for a better exercise regime, martial arts has emerged as a viable option. It caters to people of all walks of life, and of almost any age, making martial arts a viable option. It can be a great physical workout, and an effective boost to mental and spiritual wellness. 

Martial arts encompass the full range of body motion, from every joint and muscle of every limb, not to mention the trunk of the body and head.  Combining aerobic and anaerobic workouts with resistance training, it burns excess fat and builds lean muscle too. It is got for the heart and good for the brain – it makes a person move and think at the same time.

Different martial arts focus on different skill sets, so choose wisely to suit your needs, plus personality, interests and skills set. Think about the right Ryu for you too. Some focus on competition while others focus on skills and techniques.  It is important they also focus on the mental aspects too.

Boxing and Muay Thai emphasis is on both the arms and legs in varying rotary motions. The focus is on strength and speed, which are key components in delivering powerful blows.

All wrestling and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu have a focus on core strength, to use the weight of the body to maneuver opponents into various positions. 

Ninjitsu encompasses adaptability and flexibility through the integration of many different techniques, including  shurikenjutsu, kenjutsu, sōjutsu, bōjutsu  and others. Ninjitsu is a fighting system based around joint locks, striking, weapon fighting, and these days particularly – self-defense.

Ninjitsu skills relating to espionage and assassination were highly useful to warring factions in feudal Japan (around 1000 years ago). Traditionally Ninja used non-detection (keeping a low profile), avoidance, and misdirection together with stealth and deception to confuse and escape, hence their typically black keikogi (稽古着) or  dōgi (道着) or keikoi (稽古衣) rather than the traditional white seen with other martial arts.

With regular training a person becomes self-aware of their physical body and how it can move to advantage. The mind develops spatial intelligence. A ‘black belt’ is more than just a collection of skill sets and techniques, it is the mastery of self-awareness and understanding of the body and the mind as a connected system.

Martial Arts have an important role in the preservation of some nation’s intangible cultural heritage in the same way as language dialects, dance, music, rituals, crafts and traditions.

In addition to instruments, objects, artifacts and cultural spaces the Intangible Cultural Heritage includes the practices, representations, expressions, knowledge, skills – such as a countries own Martial Art/s.

All martial arts have a history and provide participants with a sense of identity and continuity from Sensei to student as they progress through their coloured belt system of advancement.

The Chinese character “mu” literally means “to stop fighting” or “to put down weapons.” The word “arts” points to skill, expression of beauty or creativity. “martial arts” means the ending of conflict. Peace is the ultimate goal of martial arts.

The most popular martial arts are;

• Aikido – Japanese technique is about redirecting the strikes of an attacker with joint locks, throws, and Japanese weapons.
• Jiu-Jitsu – is grappling and ground fighting. Stikes help move action to the ground.
• Judo – a sport consisting of Japanese throws, joint locks, and grappling.
• Jujutsu – a Japanese art that manipulates the power of the attacker, Great for kids.
• Karate – hand, elbow, and knee strikes, as well as kicks. Hands down the most popular martial arts in the world.
• Kendo – sword fighting.
• Sulkendo – it means “the way of the fist that flows like a water” which describes the entire concept of this style.
• Kickboxing – power kicks and punches.
• Kung Fu – Chinese martial art with 10 styles. 
• MMA – mixed martial arts combine boxing, wrestling, karate, and Jiu-Jitsu
• Muay Thai – Thailand martial art adds elbows and knees, which are not part of kickboxing.
• Lerdrit – used by the Royal Thai Army’s Palace Guard and other military and police forces. The art has its origins in Muay Thai.
• Ninjutsu – Japanese ninja. Began among oppressed farmers and became the martial art of assassins and spies as agents of Japanese Feudal Lords.
• Sumo – Japanese wrestling.
• Bando –  Burma. Techniques use the names of animals.
• Silat – Malaysia. Based on hundreds of different fighting styles. Practiced in Vietnam, Laos, and India from around the 3rd century BCE. 
• Kalaripayattu – Indian martial art with its origins dating back over 3,000 years ago. 
• Bokator – Cambodian ancient Martial Art used by the armies of Angkor against their enemies 1700 years ago.
• Taekwondo – Korean kicks, blocks, punches, and open-hand strikes.
• Tai Chi – techniques in slow motion. This martial art is good for reducing stress and improving balance and health.
• Kino Mutai is a Filipino self-defense art. This art teaches grappling, pinching, biting to defeat a stronger and bigger attacker in a street fight.
• Arnis – from the Philippines. Also called kali. Developed as a self-defense against slave traders and invaders (including the Spanish and Japan WW2). They use knives, swords, and rattan sticks, along with blocking, footwork, and disarming maneuvers. Just as poor Japanese farmers developed Ninja using farm tools and improvised weapons along with unarmed techniques in Feudal times, the Filipinos developed Arnis for self-defense along similar lines when the Spanish colonizer’s banned bladed weapons among poor farmers. Instead they developed improvised bladed tools as weapons for protection. Even today people in Palau, use the term chad ra oles, for Filipinos meaning “people of the knife” because of Filipinos’ reputation for carrying knives and using them to fight.

When we think of Martial Arts we tend to think of the Orient. However, there are other Martial Arts beyond Asia.

• Krav Maga – from Israel. Used by military and police to deal with armed and unarmed opponents,
• Capoeira – from Brazil. Originating from African slaves it employs rapid dance spins and acrobatic kicks.
• Sambo – Russian martial art.
• Chun Kuk Do – developed by TV actor and martial arts expert, Chuck Norris
• Systema – Russia used by various Special Forces and KGB and modern Spetznaz. 
• Highland Wresting – from Scotland.
• Pankration, which roughly translates to “Anything goes” from ancient Greece.
• Fencing – Swordsmanship from western Europe dating back to the 14th and 15th centuries.
• Canne – Traditional French self-defense using a walking stick used by upper class to defend themselves in the street from pick pockets and thieves. “Savate” have actually emerged from Canne de Combat. 
• .Bataireacht – Irish stick fighting.
• Apache Knife Throwing – the US military employs several trainers of Apache ancestry to teach special forces troops survival and knife fighting.
• Zulu Nguni – stick fighting.
• Okichitaw – developed by George J. Lepine in 2002 in Canada influences by Taekwondo, Judo, and Hapkido. It focuses on aggressive hand to hand fighting.
• Rough and Tumble – or “gouging”. Dirty street fight style without weapons. Biting the opponent, gouging the eyes, throws, strikes to the groin area, and any other dirty and brutal moves. Originating in 18th century USA.
• Jeet Kune Do – developed by legendary martial arts movie star Bruce Lee in the USA.

My 15-year-old nephew was being bullied by a couple of boys at school, who were jealous because of his academic achievements.  It all went sour when one of them videoed a physical attack and posted it on social media. Someone reported it to the police and the boys in question were arrested and charged by the police with assault. They now face the justice system.

My nephew’s parents discovered what had been happening at school and decided to enroll him in Muay Thai classes. He really enjoys attending and has excelled. Now he has no fear of his attackers as he can confidently protect himself. His confidence and self-esteem has benefited, and he has a girlfriend too.

Generally, the younger boys and girls start learning self-defense the better.

At Internet Hypnosis dot Shop we have subliminal affirmations and Prime Hypnosis and Hipno Hop Rap to help train you to visualize and perform better Martial Arts.

Imagery, or creative visualization techniques are used by elite sports people everywhere to better achieve their goals. It is mental rehearsal with repetition of exactly what they want to experience in reality.

Repeated imagery can build confidence in an athlete’s ability to perform skills and perform them under pressure.

As with physical practice sessions mental visualization’s can train the mind to rehearse, as if real, the performance of martial arts skills and successful competition performances.

For best results these scenarios should include visual (images), kinesthetic (physical body feelings), and auditory (sounds). These sensory details assist to make the visualization compelling and as if real for the deep unconscious mind (which does not understand the difference between reality and imagined scenarios. That is why they should be as realistic as possible).

Researchers have been studying the impact of imagery on sports performance and publishing their findings in sports psychology books and papers. 

In psychology, the deep unconscious mind is often referred to as ‘the child within’. Like a child, the deep unconscious is not logical. It does not understand time or reality. Just like a small child, a simple message repeated often enough will eventually become a new deep unconscious belief.

The ‘adult’ logical conscious mind usually filters incoming information. So, if it does not ‘fit with’ current beliefs it may be rejected, and not passed down to the deep unconscious for processing and storage as long term memories Welcome Better Martial Arts subliminal affirmations are skillfully written messages, professionally camouflaged below music or environmental foreground sounds, so the logical conscious mind cannot hear them (and therefore cannot filter them out either.

 

There was an old man telling a boy about a fight between a wolf and a dog. “Which one do you think won the fight?” he asked the boy. “I don’t know” replied the boy. 

“The one YOU feed*” said the old man.

Internet Hypnosis dot Shop and Peter Zapfella dot com blogs and articles are researched and written for accuracy, quality and relevance by human beings, not suspect Chat GBT and Open AI sources.

Created and © Copyright 2024 Peter Zapfella. All Rights Reserved. Not for resale. Relevant back links welcome.