Counselling, Coaching and Psychotherapy. What is the difference?

Counselling,, Counselling, Coaching and Psychotherapy. What is the difference?

Counselling, Coaching and Psychotherapy. What is the difference? Understandably, people are confused by these terms and their meaning. For example, a psychologist may be a psychotherapist, but a psychotherapist may not be a psychologist. Neither are psychiatrists.

Counsellors are not Performance Coaches, yet Performance Coaches may also be Counsellors. Counsellors are not psychotherapists, yet psychotherapists and psychologists may use counselling techniques. Counselling-coaching-and-psychotherapy.Podcast. Counselling, Coaching, PschotherapClick Here to Listen button, www.InternetHypnosis.Shop

Peter Zapfella is not a psychologist or psychiatrist. However, Peter is a counsellor, a performance coach and a psychotherapist.

The CORE VALUES of Counselling, Performance Coaching and Psychotherapy are the same. They are;

  • RESPECT for your and our dignity and rights (including privacy and confidentiality).
  • INTEGRITY of your and our communication and service.
  • COLABORATION and CO OPERATION for the best outcomes of all concerned.
  • PROFESSIONAL knowledge, ongoing study and trainings.
  • ALLEVIATING your distress and suffering.
  • QUALTY enhancement of relationships between ourselves and others.
  • APPRECIATION of cultural and human diversity and life experiences.
  • FAIRNESS and ADEQUACY of service.

Define Counselling

Counselling is a process where an individual, couple or family meet with a professional counsellor to talk about issues and challenges they face in their lives.

Trained counsellors work with their clients on strategies to assist them to overcome day to day obstacles and personal challenges that they are facing.

A professional counsellor is registered and trained to provide a genuine, caring and empathic response in a safe and confidential collaboration. Clients are active participants in the process. They learn strategies and techniques. They usually have on going sessions to promote mental health and wellbeing, enhance self-understanding, and resolve concerns.

A trained counsellor has tools and techniques. They can use these tools to support and help you to move through the difficult and challenging, feelings, thoughts and behaviors, or situations that you may be experiencing. The counsellor can provide these tools and techniques as homework for the client to take away and practice and use in their daily life.

Counselling methods may include;

  • PSYCHODYNAMICS. Long term (such as childhood past traumas) causing current life dysfunctions. (Perhaps presenting as anger issues for example).
  • STRENGTHS PERSPECTIVES. Goal setting. Enabling better self-management and expectations.
  • FAMILY THERAPY. Cooperative family and group support sessions. Peter does not currently offer this.


  • Emotional. This is an area Peter has many years’ experiences.
  • Cognitive/Thinking. Including CBT.
  • Behaviors.
  • Gestalt.
  • Combinations of the above.

The ultimate goal is for the client to make life changing decisions for themselves on the best course of action ahead, with the support of their counsellor.

Ultimately it is the client themselves who will make the decisions and take action. Counselling-coaching-and-psychotherapy.

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Performance Coaching – for Success

Define Performance Coaching

Performance Coaching is a development approach based on the use of one-to-one conversations to enhance an individual’s skills, knowledge or work performance.

We can blame our parents, our education, our government, or the economy, however, in truth the results we get in life are a direct reflection of our own unconscious beliefs, attitudes, behaviors, and values.

Using Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). Neuro-Semantics, the Emotional Alignment Technique and advanced hypnotherapy methods Peter Zapfella can guide you to:

  • re-align and delete negative emotions.
  • lower stress levels.
  • delete self-limiting beliefs and inner conflict.
  • delete habits of behavior that block your path forward.
  • using strategies for success.
  • stimulate new behaviors.
  • advanced personal change techniques.
  • re-align individual and group values.
  • move forward with better focus and clarity.
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Define Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy is a talk therapy. It is an effective method to assist people deal with and overcome a variety of mental health issues and emotional difficulties. Psychotherapy can eliminate symptoms so a person can function better increasing well-being.

Peter Zapfella preferers to use hypnotherapy, neurolinguistic programming (NLP), timeline therapy ® and the emotional alignment technique TM. He also uses recorded hypnotherapy and subliminal affirmations as part of his toolbox of effective techniques. Counselling-coaching-and-psychotherapy.

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Define Hypnotherapy and Hypnosis

Hypnosis is a popular method for experiencing trance, but it is not the only approach. Researcher Dennis R Wier has been experimenting with trance for more than 35 years. In his book, Trance: from Magic to Technology, he defined trance as “a state of mind being caused by cognitive loops were a cognitive object (thoughts, images, sounds, intentional actions) repeats long enough to result in various sets of disabled cognitive functions.”“at least some cognitive functions such as volition are disabled as is seen in what is typically termed a ‘hypnotic trance’.

Meditation, addictions, captivation, and frenzy are all trance states. We also see trance states induced from indigenous and religious people’s rhythmic percussion, drumming, chants, and dance.

People also experience trance through television, advertising, trauma, panic attacks, psychosis, euphoria, and some psychedelic drugs such as LSD, peyote, and psilocybin. Counselling-coaching-and-psychotherapy.

People can achieve trance states while dancing, in athletic pursuits and facing real or imagined threats to their survival. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy.


Hypnosis is not something a hypnotist does to someone, rather the hypnotist expertly guides or facilitates a person to create their own trance state, therefore “All hypnosis is self hypnosis” Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy.

People are usually guided into trance by a hypnotist, who may be a Sharman, mystic, priest, or yogi. With practice, individuals can choose to achieve trance themselves through some forms of meditation, self-hypnosis, and prayer. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy.

When people think of hypnotic trance they think of sleep. I have had several clients over the years who have said “That did not work. I was not hypnotized, because I was not asleep.” They think hypnotic trance is sleep. The fact is trance can be very active too.

Hypnotherapy is a system of psychotherapy using hypnotism for therapeutic intent. Fundamental changes can occur at the deep unconscious level of mind during trace, often to ‘rewrite’ past mistakes and out of date concepts. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy.

Define Neurolinguistic Programming, including Time Line Therapy, Emotional Alignment Technique etc

Neuro-Linguistic Programming or NLP explores the relationships between how we think (neuro), how we communicate (linguistic) and our patterns of behavior and emotion (programs).

NLP is an incredibly powerful collection of techniques that can quickly change emotions, beliefs, and behavior’s at the deep unconscious level of mind. Thereby people can think, communicate, and manage themselves, and others, more effectively than ever before. One of the things about NLP that amazes hypnotherapists and psychologists is that it usually does not need a traditional hypnotic trance to effectively create fundamental change at the deep unconscious. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy.

That is why NLP is one of the most powerful skills used today in advertising, sales, business management, and sports coaching and all forms of personal development.

The logical conscious mind is the goal setter, while your deep unconscious mind is the goal-getter.

If things are not working out in your life, chances are your conscious and deep unconscious are incongruent. NLP removes the unconscious ‘blocks’ so it can align with the conscious mind. Counselling, coaching and psychotherapy.

NLP was created in the 1970s by a psychologist, Richard Bandler, and an assistant professor of Linguistics, John Grinder. Since then, many have contributed to building of the field. Initially, NLP was focused upon health and self-development, perhaps because Bandler and Grinder studied people such as Dr Milton Erickson. Today NLP encompasses education, business, sports, and improved inter-personal communication. It is now used to advance better communication and influence from the pulpit, presentations, advertising, and more.

Time Line Therapy® was developed by the late Tad James. Time Line Therapy® involves treatment at an unconscious level and allows a client to surrender negative emotions linked to past experiences and transform internal programming.

Time Line Therapy® is an NLP therapeutic technique assisting individuals understand how past events have influenced them in the now, and how past events may continue to influence their future. Clients can change the way they feel and think about those toxic past events and therefore improve their mental health and wellbeing.

Between 1995 and 2002 Time Line Therapy® was Peters preferred NLP therapeutic technique. However he had witnessed other practitioners struggle, and occasionally experienced challenges with the technique himself.

Abreactions are strong, often disturbing emotional and even physical reactions to something re-experienced from the past as if real. While some therapy approaches value abreactions as part of the healing process, having witnessed it several times Peter has never subscribed to this concept. Abreactions could re-traumatize rather than achieve the desired healing, particularly if there is no experienced therapist present to ‘rescue’ the patient.

In 2002 Peter began to conceptualize a new therapy model, which negated the shortcomings, such as abreactions, sometimes experienced with the Time-Line method. He tested his theories with his clients. The results were even more successful than expected. He then experimented and perfected the method called Emotional Alignment Therapy, the forerunner of the Emotional Alignment Technique (EAT).

Since 2002 Peter has used the Emotional Alignment Technique (EAT) with many thousands of clients without one experiencing abreactions. Peter has since taught his technique to other therapists, who like him, have found it overcomes all the limitations and challenges of the Time-Line method, while at the same time proving incredibly effective.

Recently published research (2020) by research psychologists has confirmed how and why the Emotional Alignment Technique (EAT) works so effectively.

The Emotional Alignment Technique (EAT) quickly re-aligns conflicts between the logical and analytical conscious mind and the deep unconscious level of mind, which controls people’s lives through health, addiction, depression, anxiety, trauma, negative emotions and self-limiting beliefs. Counselling, Coaching and Psychotherapy.

Peter believes these toxic experiences are negative trance states at the deep unconscious level of mind. The Emotional Alignment Technique (EAT) overwrites these with new self-empowering beliefs and behavior’s.

After having studied and qualified as a Master Practitioner of Hypnotherapy, Peter went to the US to study Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy ®, with the late Master Trainer Dr. Everett James Ph.D. Hypno (USA), and Master Trainers Julie Silverthorn Psych (USA), John Overduff Psych (USA), Dr. Susan Chu MD. (HK), Ardith James (USA) Dr. Dennis Sartain Ph.D. Psych (UK), and others. Peter Zapfella became a psychotherapist in private practice in 1995.

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Reif Spano ‘Eyes That Polarize’ Hypnotist

In 1997 he began working with legendary American Stage Hypnotist Reif Spano. Peter subsequently developed his own Comedy Hypnosis Show and in 2000 he accepted the opportunity to live and work in Sydney during the Sydney Olympic Games. He performed many corporate Comedy Hypnosis Shows including Hyde Park, Sydney before thousands of people, and at Luna Park, Sydney.

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Peters on stage hypnosis experiences taught him far more than any training course or therapeutic experiences could do. Counselling, Coaching and Psychotherapy.

At that time Sydney was the centre of NLP trainings in Australia, so Peter was able to repeat his original trainings and attend further trainings with Master Trainers Dr. Everett James Ph.D. Hypno (USA), Dr. Adriana James Ph.D. Hypno, Philippa Bond (AUS), Dr. Michael Hall Ph.D. Psych (USA), Rev. Dr. Bodenhamer Ph.D. Theo (USA), George Faddoul (AUS), Lori Flores (USA), Tim Halborn (USA), Sue Knight (UK), Kis Halborn (USA), Bogdan Bobocea (AUS) and others. Counselling, Coaching and Psychotherapy.

Peter was ‘snapped up’ by the two largest NLP and hypnotherapy event training organisations in Australia to assist overseas trainers present in Sydney.

These opportunities gave Peter an incredible opportunity to learn from the leading innovators in their fields of psychotherapy. It was a key to his understanding which enabled him to create the Emotional Alignment Technique (EAT).

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Subliminal Affirmations

Subliminal (/sʌbˈlɪmɨnəl) literally means “below threshold” of conscious perception, below normal conscious recognition, yet within the range of hearing of our deep unconscious. Peter Zapfella’s ‘Welcome’ subliminal messages are like a caring parent or good friend who is inspiring you to develop new behaviors, habits, and beliefs that you already know you need for a happier life. They motivate you to change for the better. They focus your unconscious mind and encourage it to make positive changes as it hears the positive messages repeated over and over again. They can usually be used in the background while driving at work, in the home, and while sleeping, for extended periods of time. For best results listen to the subliminal messages on ‘repeat’ or ‘loop’ for hours at a time. You can listen all night, while you sleep. counselling, Coaching and Psychotherapy.

As part of his continuing professional development Peter is currently a candidate for the Diploma of Counseling. It is a Government & Australian Skills & Quality Authority (ASQA) & Australian Qualifications Framework (AQF) accredited. Leading to membership of the Australian Counselling Association and Private Health Insurance Provider.‘

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Greater Motivation
Greater Motivation

In order to become motivated to do or achieve something, we really need to change not only what we THINK, but also how we FEEL about that subject. It may be learning a new practical skill, or knowledge so we can pass tests and examinations. It may be cleaning and housework? It may be getting our weight under control? Overcoming bad habits or addictions?

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A good place to start is at the beginning. So, ask yourself WHY? Why do you want to achieve that goal? Why is it important enough to invest your limited resources (time and energy)?


WHAT gets you out of bed at the start of everyday? No. The answer is not a biological function of the body. It is a need to survive or to make better your situation. What specifically is it?


HOW are you being prevented? What is un-motivating you?


The first and foremost belief of our unconscious mind is to protect us from harm, it is responsible for keeping us alive.

Therefore, we are ‘hard-wired’ to move us away from ‘pain’ and toward ‘pleasure’ as a ‘survival instinct’. If we perceive something as difficult or painful, we are ‘hard wired’ to move away from it.

When we are unmotivated about something, it is because we perceive it as unpleasant or even painful. So we avoid it. We look for distractions. List you most common distractions here.


I use a metaphor about crossing a river by stepping on stones to keep feet dry.

crossing river on stones.

The goal is to cross the river to the other side without getting wet. Some stones are close and easy, while others are further apart and may need a jump rather than a step. Yet other rocks are slippery covered in moss or algae. Some are loose and unstable. The motivation is to cross the river while remaining dry. The other side of the river is in sight, but it takes effort, and has a risk value too.

In the same way, when needing motivation, we must (A) Have a clear realistic goal in mind. (B) Have an achievable plan of action, perhaps in multiple steps. (C) Take the first steps. (D) Be flexible, and ready to change to adapt to the unexpected. (E) Consider cooperating with other likeminded people. (F) Have fun.

There are two ways to overcome feeling and being un-motivated. I will call them ‘light’ and ‘premium’, much the way they label beer.


Firstly, are your tasks realistic? Do you have the resources to achieve them?


Are you setting yourself up for failure? Do you need to reassess your goals? Can you break them down into achievable steps, so they all lead to the same goal?

Are you being sabotaged? Is so, by WHOM?

Are there toxic people preventing you from success?

You may need to keep your plans and goals on a ‘need to know’ basis, in strict confidence?


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George Washington

George Washington is quoted as saying “Associate yourself with men of good quality if you esteem your own reputation; for ‘tis better to be alone than in bad company.”

Your success may be better served by surrounding yourself with people who have the same goals. In that way you can motivate each other.

Stones in a fast flowing river

It may be easier to cross the river with other’s who share the same goal?

Are you un-motivated because you are unorganised? Do you lack personal discipline? Do you need a routine or strict schedule, so you set aside resources such as dedicated time to achieve your goals? So, you set aside distractions such as family commitments, so you can focus and ‘get into the zone’?

Disorganized, scattered thoughts create confused and wasted energy. At worst it can be frenzied, turbulent, chaotic and muddled.

Instead of giving up halfway across the river, look back at how far you have come. It will motivate you to continue toward your goal.

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Create a plan of action using S.M.A.R.T.E.R goals. These are:


– Simple                      – uncomplicated

– Sustainable           – goals can be maintained

– Specific                    – to the point

– Stretching              – you to your limits


– Meaningful             – to you

– Motivating              – all concerned driven to succeed

– Manageable            – systems to control any circumstance

– Measurable             – how will you know progression?


– Achievable             – keep it real

– Attitude                   – be positive

– As if now                  – say it in the present tense, not the future.

– Attainable               – do you have the resources?

– Adjustable               – flexible to changing circumstances

– Aligned                      – all concerned clear about the BIG picture

– Aspirational            – all concerned inspired

– Acceptable              – all concerned agree

– Assignable               – others can take over roles


– Responsible           – everyone knows their role of responsibility

– Results                      – orientated

– Realistic                   – keep it real

– Relevant                  – stay on track


– Targeted                  – clear set goals

– Timed                         – to completion

– Toward                      – what you want

– Traceable                – keep records of who, how and what


– Ethical                     – no one is hurt

– Evaluated              – checks and balances

– Ecological             – win/win for all concerned

– Enjoyable              – keep it fun


– Recognition         – congratulate a job well done

– Reviewed               – constantly check progress

– Rewarded              – there must be some personal gain

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My 98 year old mother is fond of lists. She writes out a list of jobs or tasks with the highest priorities at the top through to the lowest at the bottom. As they are completed, she proudly ticks them off once complete. From time to time she rewrites her list as new tasks or projects are added and older jobs are completed. She also writes down whatever resources may be needed to complete each task.

Happiness comes from successfully completing each task and needing to rewrite the list.  These feel-good experiences actually create endorphins in our brain as a reward. It is important NOT to take a well-earned break or reward until the task has been completed. That way we teach ‘the child mind within’ our deep unconscious mind, that it must complete the task before it earns the reward,


Synonyms of the word motivation include catalyst, desire, encouragement, impetus, impulse, incentive, inclination, interest, motive, passion, reason, wish, action, actuation, angle, disposition, drive, fire, hunger for, inclination, incitement, inducement, instigation, kick, persuasion, predisposition, provocation, push, spur, and stimulus.

Think about the emotions behind these synonyms for a moment. They are all positive. They all attract the unconscious mind toward something, and away from something else. That is the emotional secret to motivation.

By being motivated, what are you moving AWAY from?


What are you moving TOWARD?


Now you can make it practical. Before you begin a project, think about how to make the goal pleasurable, even if you promise yourself a reward at the end of it. And make the place or situation where you are moving away from physically and emotionally painful. Then, and only then start moving.

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We take on board everything previously covered in ‘Light’ and build on it using some Neurolinguistic Programming (NLP) techniques.

Ask yourself HOW will you know you have achieved your goal?


DO you give yourself permission to have an undeniable experience to confirm you have achieved your goal?


I counsel my clients to identify their own AWAY from and TOWARD emotions. Sometimes that takes a little digging to find it.

Using the Emotional Alignment Technique (EAT) I assist my clients to resolve the specific ‘pain’ issues ‘blocking’ their path forward. In other words, the deep unconscious fears that drive the survival instinct and create un-motivation. The intent is to clear a path TOWARD.

Then we use the ‘Power No’ and if appropriate the ‘Zap Away’ techniques to magnify the AWAY   and make them emotionally ‘painful’.

Next, we use the ‘Power Yes’ technique to empower the ‘pleasure’ and ‘reward’ or TOWARD emotions and motivate successful competition of the tasks leading to the goal.

In other words, we magnify the AWAY from and the TOWARD emotions so that the deep unconscious mind becomes powerfully motivated about the clients specific goals.

Finally, I wrap it up with a custom hypnotherapy filled with ‘pleasure’ and positive emotion around the task/s and competition of the goal. Specific motivation for the individual’s personality and circumstances completes the therapy.

I have created specific Prime Hypnosis and Welcome Subliminal Affirmation MP3’s which can be accessed by clicking on the appropriate images above. (Some are currently in production). Vanish Hypnotherapy MP’3s will follow.

Before you know it you are on the other side of the river, exactly where you wanted to be!

© Copyright Peter Zapfella 2022

Is a Master Hypnotherapist and Master and Trainer of Neurolinguistic Programming.